COMFORT COMES FIRST
A thoughtful first meeting.
A little preparation leaves more room to enjoy the conversation. These practical habits are a useful place to start.
Choose a public, established place
For a first meeting, choose a café, community venue or another well-used public location. Check opening hours, accessibility and how you will get home. Avoid meeting at a private address or in an isolated area.
Keep control of your plans
Arrange your own transport and keep enough phone battery and money for the journey home. Tell someone you trust where you are going and when you expect to be back. An hour for coffee is a perfectly good first plan.
Share details gradually
You do not need to share your home address, financial information, identification documents or private account details to have a conversation. Never send money, account codes or access credentials to someone you have just met.
Respect boundaries, including your own
Ask before exchanging contact details or taking photographs. Accept a no without pressure, and do not assume someone wants another meeting. You can leave any situation that does not feel comfortable; you do not owe anyone extra time.
Understand the limits of an interest list
47 Pigeons does not background-check people who register interest. A place on the list is not a personal endorsement or a safety guarantee. Check the organiser and details of any specific activity before choosing to attend.
If something concerns you
For concerns connected with this website or an invitation from 47 Pigeons, contact us and include only the information needed to explain the issue. If there is an immediate risk or emergency, contact the appropriate local emergency services.